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Ok there's a couple points I'd like to hit with this.
1. Good friends and boyfriends/girlfriends tell their friends the truth. If they're being a nasty bitch they should say so (in the kindest way possible). If A witness B being mean to C, but A does not say anything to B about it that's wrong. Especially if B asked A's opinion or was venting.
2. Good friends are not mean to their friends, especially AFTER it's been pointed out that they're behaving badly. They should apologize immediately and move on.
3. When friends get angry with each other they do not go on a deleting spree on every website they both use. They calm down then work it out later.
I personally struggle with keeping friends I'll be the first to admit it. I could sit here and point out all my bad qualities and blame myself but I won't. Things are always my fault. People make their own decisions.
I was trying to vent to a friend about how I felt that day. I said I was lonely. She replied everyone is. Then posted "If I wanted to be a therapist, I would have gone to school for it. For one day, I don't want to hear a single problem from anyone." You may disagree with me but that's flat out bitchy. I told her that. Then it started into a whole nasty conversation where at one point she told me to "shut the fuck up". Then later on tumblr we were having a little post war so to speak. That's where i told her to stop being pathetic, and that I'm not going to excuse her mean behavior. She wrote "you're not as important as you think you are". That was the last thing she said before I realize she stopped following me on tumblr and I decided to return the favor. Then I checked facebook she deleted me from there. Then I checked Xanga she didn't delete me but she's blogging on Xanga as much I am. Since her comment was in my inbox (and she had already deleted me from everything else) I deleted her. And I blocked from my public blog, because I flat out don't want her reading what I have to say. If she wants to contact me she has my phone number and she knows all the websites I use.
In my opinion, she took a step too far. I hope one of her friends or her boyfriend calls her out on it. That's not how a friend acts (which is also what I told her). I completely understand that people have days where they shut down. I get it. But there's a thing called politeness, it needs to be exercised. I feel she did me wrong, did I say things to make her more mad? Yes I did. I'm being honest.
Do I think she's going to come back and apologize? Hell no! I believe that this is who she is and it is in her nature. She will not change for me or anyone else.
In conclusion, to me a friend is someone who is loyal, has your back, is honest when you're doing something wrong or hurtful. To be a good friend you need to be there when they're annoying, causing you pain, and when it's not convenient. Sometimes you listen to them complain about the same thing everyday, sometimes you'll listen to all the good things that happen to them but never happen to you. Whatever it is be a friend anyway.
"I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best." - Marilyn Monroe
This is true.